I had planned on staying silent on the Marie Claire article. I thought that others expressed much more eloquently my thoughts on the subject and I tend to be a little snarky and reactionary. I’ve been impressed by the responses of people on both sides of the fence. Unfortunately, I’ve been much more perturbed by the response of many others.

As a weight loss blogger and part of the healthy living blog community, I believe that we absolutely have a responsibility to our readers. For some, their blogs are their livelihood. Because of that I understand why it felt like an attack, but also because of that I think they have even more of a responsibility.

Granted, there are some out there who really do write for themselves. For some, blogging is just a way to hold themselves accountable and a way into a community of support. On the other hand, if you are making any money from your blog or receiving free products, you have a responsibility to your readers.

Currently, I do not make money from my blog but I absolutely feel a responsibility toward every one of you who is reading this. I feel strongly about this and have written about it before.

Every profession has some sort of code of ethics and we cannot be an exception. Whether we like it or not, we become role models of healthy living and “experts” just because of our visibility.

I’m not saying that everything in the article was true. None of it was nice, but there is a lot we can take from it. We can take this as an opportunity to learn and reassess what we put out there. Nice or not, we just received an outsider’s point of view on us and it only stings so much because of truths laced through it.

Although I don’t post my meals because I think it’s boring, I don’t actually think there’s anything wrong with doing so. It makes sense that we bond over sharing our plates. Every culture in the world has a food culture. Eating and drinking is a vital part of community bonding. We meet over meals, bond over meals, make commitments and contemplate life over meals.

Smell is the sense with the strongest memory associations. A simple smell can take you back to parts of your life perhaps forgotten. Paprika will always bring back the memory of making Thanksgiving dinners with my mom and fighting over where the eggs were set (I wanted them on a cart, she wanted them on the counter. I put them on the cart every time she wasn’t looking until they rolled off onto the floor. So paprika also reminds me that maybe I should listen to my mother, sometimes).

It’s not strange that we share our meals and bond over the food we eat. The problem is when behaviors remain unchecked even when eating and exercise habits are unhealthy. The “Big Six” (stupid name, btw) have so many avid followers that any comment against them is immediately shot down. Mob mentality is unfortunately rampant in the blog world.

Rather than intelligently disputing the article and learning from the valid points presented, too many responded with hot headed angry words and knee jerk insults. This only validated the portrait painted of us.

For some of the “Big Six” I lost any respect I may have had for them. Between passive-aggressive tweets and “I’m a victim” blog posts, I could only shake my head. For a few others, especially Jenna from Eat Live Run and Heather from Hangry Pants, their responses both impressed me and made me want to continue (or start) reading their blogs.

While I wish that the article had been written in a kinder manner, I think it exposed a lot of truths that we need to look at with a critical eye. If you were one of the reactionaries, please take a moment to step back and think about the source of your anger. If the article contained no truth we would laugh at the absurdity of it. Things only become personal when there’s truth in it.

I think that Rachel summed it up best, so please do join the conversation at Hollaback Health.

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MrsFatass October 7, 2010, 4:42 pm

Hey Kendra. I, too, have decided not to weigh in publicly (but might also change my mind) but enjoyed reading your thoughts. It's interesting, isn't it?
Great post.

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MrsFatass October 7, 2010, 4:42 pm

Hey Kendra. I, too, have decided not to weigh in publicly (but might also change my mind) but enjoyed reading your thoughts. It's interesting, isn't it?
Great post.

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Riley Carson October 7, 2010, 5:00 pm

This was a very good article. I'm actually a little glad you touched on this because what a lot of people forget is that fitness is really a lifestyle choice. It's something that begins to creep into every fiber of your being and color every decision you make in the day – whether it be walking up the stairs or using an elevator, drinking water or diet soda, or sitting in a chair all day or ocassionally pacing around the office. The article took the wrong slant on this because in order to really make progress in fitness, you have to be very dedicated.

There's a difference between dedication and obsession, and that difference is self-destruction. I say blog on about your progress, and I say kudos to anyone advocating a healthy lifestyle!

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Riley Carson October 7, 2010, 5:00 pm

This was a very good article. I'm actually a little glad you touched on this because what a lot of people forget is that fitness is really a lifestyle choice. It's something that begins to creep into every fiber of your being and color every decision you make in the day – whether it be walking up the stairs or using an elevator, drinking water or diet soda, or sitting in a chair all day or ocassionally pacing around the office. The article took the wrong slant on this because in order to really make progress in fitness, you have to be very dedicated.

There's a difference between dedication and obsession, and that difference is self-destruction. I say blog on about your progress, and I say kudos to anyone advocating a healthy lifestyle!

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Bridget@PavementPlants October 8, 2010, 1:01 am

Look at how easy and wonderful it now is to comment!

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Bridget@PavementPlants October 8, 2010, 1:01 am

Look at how easy and wonderful it now is to comment!

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Peter October 8, 2010, 3:03 pm

The problem with the article is the use of selective quotes, in several cases directly contradicting the point of the post, in order to make a point. Dragging VeggieGirl in at the end, a person with a serious, chronic disease to make a point about ED was beyond cruel. If you google Crohn's Disease you will understand perhaps her rapid weight loss, and issues with food.
The article would have been completely valid with a focus on pro-ana and thinspo sites – but they don't have big readership and corporate sponsored events, and calling out people with eating disorders by name throughout an article was too much evidently even for Ms. Drummond and MC.
Over-reaction by some of them? Probably – but let us know how you feel after being blindsided by a "friend" writing a "friendly" article about making a living blogging to (literally) over a million people at once with so many factual problems.

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Peter October 8, 2010, 3:03 pm

The problem with the article is the use of selective quotes, in several cases directly contradicting the point of the post, in order to make a point. Dragging VeggieGirl in at the end, a person with a serious, chronic disease to make a point about ED was beyond cruel. If you google Crohn's Disease you will understand perhaps her rapid weight loss, and issues with food.
The article would have been completely valid with a focus on pro-ana and thinspo sites – but they don't have big readership and corporate sponsored events, and calling out people with eating disorders by name throughout an article was too much evidently even for Ms. Drummond and MC.
Over-reaction by some of them? Probably – but let us know how you feel after being blindsided by a "friend" writing a "friendly" article about making a living blogging to (literally) over a million people at once with so many factual problems.

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