…or is it just your confidence?

A few weeks ago I asked “Can Fat Be Sexy?” My conclusion was no, but your comments got me thinking a little more. My opinion has shifted a bit when I realized that “sexy” is about more than just appearance. While my lardy lumps certainly are nothing to lust over, it seems that the whole is more than the sum of its parts.

Over the past few months I’ve been called sexy more than I ever have in my life. It’s strange, but certainly good for my ego. What’s caused this shift, weight loss? I don’t think so. I’ve weighed less than this before and I’ve been less floppy too. My body’s been better, but… and this is a big but (pun intended), I’ve never been more confident.

There’s something about confidence that seems to hide blemishes. It reminds me of how my dad (the chef) used to tell me that “frosting covers a multitude of sins.” Confidence is definitely the icing on the cake.

I used to scoff at the idea of confidence playing such a strong role in sexiness but I guess I’ve been reeducated. Dancing and clubbing are definitely a first class education.

What is it about confidence that turns us on? Why is it that a woman comfortable in their skin is more alluring than just physical beauty? I don’t know.

I don’t feel sexy, but I feel confident. I’m perfectly okay with that and it seems to be enough to make others think that I am sexy even if I do not. Fine by me.

I’m not going to lie, though; it’s really fun to get hit on more often. It’s fun to be looked at and admired. It’s awesome to know that the reason that person’s looking at me isn’t because their judging me for how fat I am or because there might be something hanging out of my nose.

Despite the fact that my appearance hasn’t changed that much yet, people are treating me that differently. That is what tells me it must be much more than appearance.

Maybe we give off information about our bodies by our demeanor. Our actions tell people what we think of our bodies and tell them what they should think too. It’s like non-verbal neuro-linguistic programming or a form of peer pressure. Your confidence is a way of silently saying, “Look bitch, I’m hot and you’re going to agree with me on that!”

Now I’m just making stuff up.

I may not know why but I do know that confidence is hot. So, I really must ask: What do you do to increase your confidence?